Reader Hack – Insight from Experience


lilyOh-so many of us try to “fill a hole” by purchesing stuff, only to learn the hole remains.
Our Son (42) passed away 2 years ago. Except for buying what do not need, I don’t remember much else in these 2 years.

Now it makes me sick when I look at piles, knowing that they need to be somewhere else beside the floor! When we go out, I hate the thought of coming home.

So, STACKS and STACKS, I hope will help me with some products to organise my LIFE.
It will not take my pain away, but help me to cope being in the home
To others who hurt…no matter the reason, I want to say, if at all possible, make it easy on yourself…and the “clutter” control will hopefully help you a bit.

My Best Regards,

Submitted by Hilde Hilton


3 thoughts on “Reader Hack – Insight from Experience

  • April 1, 2009 at 3:19 pm

    WOW. Thank you, Hilde, for sharing your pain and insight with us. I hope we can help!

    Take care~

  • April 2, 2009 at 6:23 am

    I have no trick or products, but I can tell you that I’ve found the stuff holds onto pain the way it attracts dust. I lost my father 5 years ago and a pregnancy 2. I suffered severe depression following the miscarriage. I built nests to hide myself from the world, buying stuff to “make myself happy” which never worked, of course, and to pack around me.

    Over time I could pick up a particular item and remember exactly what I felt when I purchased it. The book, Band of Brothers unopened, which I picked up when my dad was sick, because he’s love it; the sweater with the tags still on I bought because it was a color I loved when I was happier; the makeup to try to hide how awful I felt. There were other things, that aren’t as easy to explain, but which held pieces of the awfulness I kept trying to get rid of. And keeping them around just made me feel worse.

    I’ve gotten rid of most of it (still have the briefcase my father took to work since the day I was born) and each time I sent something out the door a little of that pain went with it.

    This isn’t what you asked for, but I really think you’d be better not getting a new product to organize what you have. Look to and donations to rid yourself of these things. Even organized they won’t fill the void.

    I am really, truly sorry for your loss. I now have a young son, and I know the pain of losing him would be the most terrible thing I could go through.

  • April 2, 2009 at 8:46 am

    Jeanne – thank you so much for the advice. It’s always better coming from ‘someone who knows’.

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