The Shame Trap: Don't Get Caught
I spoke with a woman recently who was had reached her breaking point. She had misplaced her mailbox key in her cluttered apartment. When her mailbox was full the post office simply stopped delivering her mail. Cards went un-received and bills went unpaid. This was the tipping point to a downward spiral of shame.
All of us have special talents and giftings in our lives. Some people are naturally blessed with the gift of organization. Most of us, however, are not. This isn’t something to be ashamed of.
I own a car. When it needs a tune up or breaks down somewhere, I can’t fix it myself. I have no idea how. I need to enlist help from someone who is talented and trained in the automotive field to fix it for me. There is no shame in that, right? Why should enlisting the help of someone gifted in organizing to help you clear the clutter from your life be any different? IT ISN'T!
Needing help is not a shameful thing.
Shame brings with it withdrawal, isolation, loneliness, stress, anxiety, self-blame, self-contempt, low self esteem, low self worth, and depression. How can you function in the midst of all that?
Don’t be afraid to reach out – to a trusted friend, family member, or a trained professional (don’t worry – they have seen it all!) for the help that you need to get your life back in order. It’s the hardest step, but it’s where your life begins again.
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