I’ve always loved the Nike tagline, “Just Do It.” The message is clear. If you want something, then stop making excuses and just do it! It’s a positive, inspirational message that cuts through a lot of BS.
For people with ADD, however, “just do it” isn’t always such a positive message. Many of us who had challenges in our youth (and even in our adulthood) have been dismissed and told to “just do it.”
I can’t concentrate on this math homework. “Well you have no problem concentrating on those video games. Just do it!” Read more
Planning is something that adults with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) have a lot of difficulty with.
So many things in life require planning. Getting organized requires a plan. Doing a project (like a report at work or a paper at school) requires a plan. And time management, especially, requires a plan.
Now before we go any further, let me be really clear about this:
While it's true that ADDers have difficulty planning, this doesn't mean that we can't plan. The problem is that we usually don't think we need a plan! Read more
Happy Spring! This is a great time of year—the days are longer, the colors are brighter, and we tend to have a lot more energy!
It's also the time of year that many of us look around and actually want to get our physical environments in shape…and that means getting rid of clutter!
So many adults with ADD are plagued with clutter. Our desks are covered with papers. Our sinks are full of dishes. Our floors and counters are covered with "stuff."
Where Does Clutter Come From? Read more
When you make a change in your life—presumably to better manage your Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD)—what's the hardest part?
If you ask me, the hardest part of making any change is that there is a stage in the process in which you are guaranteed to be uncomfortable.
If change was easy, we'd all be in great shape, get places on time every time, be completely organized, and get along well with every member of our families.
If it was easy to make changes in our lives, we'd all have everything we ever wanted. But life doesn't work that way, does it? Read more
The one ADD management strategy that is guaranteed to make your ADD more manageable is…[drum roll, please]…self-care! Yes, it works for everyone. And small steps lead to really big improvements in this arena.
When I say "self-care," I'm talking about the three basic things that every person (ADD or not) needs to focus on in order to stay healthy and feel good: nutrition, exercise, and sleep.
Let's take a look at why each of these are so important for adults with ADD… Read more
Today I'd like to talk about one way to tackle overwhelm; slowing down.
If you have adult Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), then you know that slowing down is a hard thing to do. There are so many tasks to accomplish in a day, and so little time to get them done! So your mind goes into high speed, thinking about what you want to accomplish and how you'll manage to do it, and worrying about the fact that getting it all done on any given day seems impossible. As a result, you spend a lot of time stressing out, and very little time enjoying life.
While slowing down is a difficult skill to master, it's essential for good ADD management. Slowing down your speedy brain helps you get into a calm and centered place. Once there, you're in a much better position to manage your stress and get things done. Read more
Do you ever get the feeling that you're overcomplicating things?
There are certainly many important decisions in life that need careful consideration. But people with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) tend to get stuck "carefully considering" even the smallest decisions, like where to keep a new item that you bought, how to spend your day off, or what to order in a restaurant. We can easily over think the simplest of tasks, making them more complicated and stressful than they need to be. Read more
Life at work can be difficult for many people with adult Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD). You may find yourself feeling chronically disorganized and stressed out at the office. Here are 5 quick tips for managing your ADD challenges at work:
1. Manage your stress both in and out of work. Many of you know what I always say about stress: Stress Management = ADD Management! The more stressed out you are, the harder it is to be on time, stay organized, focus, and get along well with others. Read more
For many people with ADD, life at work can be difficult. If your working environment is not ADD-friendly, then you may find yourself feeling chronically disorganized and stressed out at work! Whether or not you choose to share your diagnosis with your employer, the following strategies can help you become more effective at work: Read more
One of the core principles of managing your ADD is learning how to work WITH your ADD, instead of against it. And nowhere is this more important than at work, where the quality of your work often affects your time, your self-esteem, and your finances.(By the way, "work" isn't limited to your job. Housework, yard work, studying, etc. all count as work!)
As adults with ADD, our working styles often differ from those of our peers and colleagues. Our energy levels fluctuate pretty drastically. We get bored easily. We can be a bit less organized. We can get easily overwhelmed, and we can procrastinate like champs.
These, and other personal traits, have to be taken into account when you're working. Otherwise, you end up spinning your wheels and working against your ADD. Read more
You want to get your (actual) butt in shape? Try loading a wheelbarrow with 100 lbs and then pushing it up a steep hill. Then do it a few more times, and repeat the following day. This is what I did over the weekend, as I tried to create a planting bed around my house. It turns out that I am an absolute expert when it comes to gardening the hard way. The last time I worked on the landscape, I planted a few shrubs and thought that I could easily dig up the ground. WRONG. Read more
How many times have you started your day with thoughts of the many things you want to get accomplished, but feeling unsure of where to begin or how to prioritize it all? On days like this, you can find yourself succumbing to overwhelm before you ever leave the house. There is so much to do, and so little time and energy!
For adults with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), time management is one of the hardest skills to master. Read more
If you're finding yourself procrastinating today, then I've got a great tip that can help you ease into your tasks and manage your time more efficiently. Time management is one of the biggest challenges that adults with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) face. A lack of time management skills causes significant stress, frustration, and overwhelm. Read more
Well, the holiday season is officially upon us! And for some adults with ADD, this is the most stressful time of year. Here are a few practical tips for managing your ADD this Thanksgiving (or any holiday.)
1. Know Your Own ADD and Plan Ahead to Deal with It
You know yourself better than anyone, so ask yourself "How does my ADD affect me on the holidays?" Make a list of all the things that tend to stress you out, and make a plan to deal with them.
Here are a few examples: Read more
Have you ever noticed that when you're stressed out, it's more difficult to get to your appointments on time? And you tend to forget more things? Like where you put the keys…while you're already running late for that appointment?
And that during times like these, it seems like every traffic light you approach turns red and you're more likely to accidentally spill your drink all over yourself, right before you walk into that appointment? Read more
Most Americans accumulate books, CDs, and DVDs, but many adults with ADD are plagued by the endless clutter that these items create.
Books on the shelves, in the closets and in the basement that were (maybe) read once and forgotten about. CDs in the rack, in the car and under the couch that make you cringe when you look at them because you can't believe you actually listened to that music at one time. And DVDs that you forgot you even owned! Read more
Are you beating yourself up because you haven't accomplished enough this summer? If so, here's a quick guide to finishing up your summer projects.
1. Pick one or two projects that are really important to you. You may want to decide based on what's seasonally appropriate, like keeping your garden or yard well maintained. You can also choose based on things that shouldn't wait, like fixing a leak. Or, best of all, you can choose based on what you actually like to do, or are looking forward to doing. Read more