The Shame Trap: Don’t Get Caught

shameI spoke with a woman recently who was had reached her breaking point. She had misplaced her mailbox key in her cluttered apartment. When her mailbox was full the post office simply stopped delivering her mail. Cards went un-received and bills went unpaid. This was the tipping point to a downward spiral of shame.

All of us have special talents and giftings in our lives. Some people are naturally blessed with the gift of organization. Most of us, however, are not. This isn’t something to be ashamed of. Read more

Adults with AD/HD: Why Nike Has the Right Idea

swooshI’ve always loved the Nike tagline, “Just Do It.” The message is clear. If you want something, then stop making excuses and just do it! It’s a positive, inspirational message that cuts through a lot of BS.

For people with ADD, however, “just do it” isn’t always such a positive message. Many of us who had challenges in our youth (and even in our adulthood) have been dismissed and told to “just do it.”

I can’t concentrate on this math homework. “Well you have no problem concentrating on those video games. Just do it!” Read more

Time Management: Planning is Your Roadmap

Time ManagementPlanning is something that adults with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) have a lot of difficulty with.

So many things in life require planning. Getting organized requires a plan. Doing a project (like a report at work or a paper at school) requires a plan. And time management, especially, requires a plan.

Now before we go any further, let me be really clear about this:

While it’s true that ADDers have difficulty planning, this doesn’t mean that we can’t plan. The problem is that we usually don’t think we need a plan! Read more

Taming the Paper Tiger: Humor, Filing and Adult ADD

beforeHere is a guest post from my friend, Addy Bell, over at Well-Ordered Chaos – enjoy!

This week, I tackled one of the most challenging organizational issues for anyone, let alone an adult with ADD.

I did the filing.

That’s right. I created a filing system for a couple of years worth of paperwork, and I did it all by myself. I am mighty!

The process was surprisingly emotional. Read more

Uh-oh, It’s Spring Cleaning Time!

spring-cleaningHappy Spring! This is a great time of year—the days are longer, the colors are brighter, and we tend to have a lot more energy!

It’s also the time of year that many of us look around and actually want to get our physical environments in shape…and that means getting rid of clutter!

So many adults with ADD are plagued with clutter. Our desks are covered with papers. Our sinks are full of dishes. Our floors and counters are covered with “stuff.”

Where Does Clutter Come From? Read more

Adults with ADD: Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable

butterflyWhen you make a change in your life—presumably to better manage your Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD)—what’s the hardest part?

If you ask me, the hardest part of making any change is that there is a stage in the process in which you are guaranteed to be uncomfortable.

If change was easy, we’d all be in great shape, get places on time every time, be completely organized, and get along well with every member of our families.

If it was easy to make changes in our lives, we’d all have everything we ever wanted. But life doesn’t work that way, does it? Read more

1 Strategy to Manage Your ADD

eat-rightThe one ADD management strategy that is guaranteed to make your ADD more manageable is…[drum roll, please]…self-care! Yes, it works for everyone. And small steps lead to really big improvements in this arena.

When I say “self-care,” I’m talking about the three basic things that every person (ADD or not) needs to focus on in order to stay healthy and feel good: nutrition, exercise, and sleep.

Let’s take a look at why each of these are so important for adults with ADD… Read more

Slowing Down the Adult ADD Brain

slow-downToday I’d like to talk about one way to tackle overwhelm; slowing down.

If you have adult Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), then you know that slowing down is a hard thing to do. There are so many tasks to accomplish in a day, and so little time to get them done! So your mind goes into high speed, thinking about what you want to accomplish and how you’ll manage to do it, and worrying about the fact that getting it all done on any given day seems impossible. As a result, you spend a lot of time stressing out, and very little time enjoying life.

While slowing down is a difficult skill to master, it’s essential for good ADD management. Slowing down your speedy brain helps you get into a calm and centered place. Once there, you’re in a much better position to manage your stress and get things done. Read more

Adults with ADD: Are You Overcomplicating Things?

doctor-billDo you ever get the feeling that you’re overcomplicating things?

There are certainly many important decisions in life that need careful consideration. But people with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) tend to get stuck “carefully considering” even the smallest decisions, like where to keep a new item that you bought, how to spend your day off, or what to order in a restaurant. We can easily over think the simplest of tasks, making them more complicated and stressful than they need to be. Read more

Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) at Work

zen-rocksLife at work can be difficult for many people with adult Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD). You may find yourself feeling chronically disorganized and stressed out at the office. Here are 5 quick tips for managing your ADD challenges at work:

1. Manage your stress both in and out of work. Many of you know what I always say about stress: Stress Management = ADD Management! The more stressed out you are, the harder it is to be on time, stay organized, focus, and get along well with others. Read more